If you are looking for general tips on what women find exciting in bed, here are eight things that often work well:
1. Foreplay Matters – Taking your time with kissing, touching, and teasing builds anticipation and makes everything more pleasurable.
2. Confidence (Not Arrogance) – Being sure of yourself and taking the lead at times can be a big turn-on, but always with respect and attentiveness.
3. Communication – Ask what she likes, listen to her body language, and be open to feedback. Confidence plus consideration is key.
4. Variety & Spontaneity – Trying new positions, settings, or small surprises can keep things exciting. Predictability can get boring.
5. Pace & Rhythm – Not rushing, knowing when to slow down and when to speed up, and being in sync with her body’s responses make a huge difference.
6. Full-Body Attention – Don’t just focus on the obvious spots. Kissing her neck, whispering in her ear, or trailing your hands along her body can heighten the experience.
7. Passion & Enthusiasm – Showing genuine desire and being fully present in the moment makes everything feel more intense.
8. Aftercare – Cuddling, talking, or just holding her afterward helps build intimacy and makes the experience more fulfilling.
Every person is different, so the best approach is to pay attention, communicate, and explore what works for both of you.